Like the title states, does “too much pressure” exist? Well, the obvious answer (that is, to me) is yes. Parents often put too much pressure on their children, sometimes without realizing it. I mean, it’s not uncommon for parents to want their children to succeed. However, being successful involves a lot of hard work, and because we live in a performance driven society, we often emphasize too much on success without realizing that the drive for success may harm us.
It’s a known fact – many parents have high expectations, and they end up putting too much pressure on their children. The pressure might become too unbearable for some. In all my years of learning and tutoring, I am convinced that a source of motivation for many kids is the pressure from their parents. Don’t misconstrue my words; some pressure is good, but too much pressure is harmful. The child might develop depression, behavior issues such as lashing out or rebelling, or even develop low confidence due to being not able to please his/her parents.
How do you know the limit of the pressure you have to apply? Take note of these following signs:
1. They tend to forget things easily.
2. They happen to start cheating in tests or assignments.
3. They stop hanging out often with their friends.
4. They do not talk to you as often as they did.
5. They get easily agitated.
6. They seem really frustrated when studying
If your child displays any of these signs, it means you’ve put too much pressure. Whether you may choose to back off at that point is up to you, but keep this in mind, we all want our children to be happy, don’t we?
