The right balance of patience is a key skill that a parent needs to master when it comes to dealing with kids. However, to be patient all the time with your kids is a rather impractical and impossible thing to do, but try these tricks sometime and you may see positive results.
1. Communicate. Having poor communication will ruin any relationship. Talk to your kids, and ask not only about school, but about their interests and hobbies. Try to communicate to them in a language they can comprehend.
2. Be Calm. The key to being calm is to not react in the moment. If you react in the moment, you can easily be carried away by the frustration you may feel, which is more than likely to be fleeting. Try to think positively and logically, and then decide what you should say and do, and act on it. Make sure to set aside some time when you can composedly let your child know what you feel and why you feel so, and ask him or her to do the same.
3. Give your child his or her personal space. I know this may appear to be contradictory to the first advice, but if your child doesn’t want to talk at that moment, let your child know that they can talk about it later, but set a specific time frame. On different note, if your child wants to do something that are against your wishes, express to them the “pros” and “cons” of the action, and give them time to think calmly what you mean and expect. Expressing and explaining the “pros” and “cons” will yield better results compared to forcing your wishes on your child.
4. Have real expectations. Don’t force high expectations onto your child if your child isn’t capable of meeting your high expectations. It may reducing his or her self-confidence and increase the feeling of insecurity. I know this from a child’s perspective because of my personal experience.
Lastly, keep in mind how you express your irritation and anger teaches your children about managing and organizing their own feelings and relationships. Help yourself to help your children.
